independence and the chinese psyche
i've read somewhere that statistically, chinese children in the US tend to leave their parents' care later in life compared to their white counterparts, who yearn for independence probably right after hearing the word for the first time. it's doubly true here in the philippines, where chinese children could stay with their parents till their 30's with a raised eyebrow the only reaction from other people. the reason might be, first of all, its practical. you have your built-in roommates, you don't have to pay rent, you could pay your share of the bills, have food cooked for you, share in the laundry, and all those little things that you'd have to learn to do for yourself if you move out. of course the downside is that you will always be under your parents' thumb, there's no sense of independence, and you have to account for everything that you do.
this is doubly true if your house is also the family business office.
i don't know if this leads to a warped sense of the appropriate.
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i think there's no way i could agree more with your statement. only in my case, since we live under my aunt's thumb, if my parents try to "press their thumb" on me, they're rarely successful.
maybe because i'm acting most of the parent role now? (which gives me a little, if not a lot, of power nyahahaha!)
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